Being Seduced.


Okay, I am taking a very serious article to make a flippant point, and I hope that my readers will forgive me my flippancy.  The lady in this article deserves and gets all my sympathy but there is a side to the story that I need to address.

Why is it that if there are women like this, not one has ever seduced me or even tried to seduce me?

Okay, someone like one of my regular readers who I hesitate to name, is likely to turn around and ask me if I have seduced women like this woman has seduced men, and my answer is a categorical no.  In making that statement, let me hasten to add that I go by the definition of the word seducing as “Attract someone to a belief or into a course of action that is inadvisable or foolhardy.” (OED)

So, the next question then will be following that definition, will I still be interested in being seduced?  At my present stage of physical and mental development, the answer will have to be no, but perhaps say two or three decades ago, the answer would have been a resounding yes.

And about the little sticker on the top left, I leave you to decide whether I am a gentleman or not.

What about you dear reader?


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54 Responses to Being Seduced.

  1. Looney says:

    I think the author is a man who is simply giving us his fantasies. These things never happen in real life.
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  2. wisewebwoman says:

    Seducer and seduce. No more will I say to respect the unrespectable.

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  3. Well… I guess someone was trying to seduce me, but I totally missed it. It was my wife (who I’d just started dating at the time) and a couple of women I was working with at the time who told me… and I was stunned.

    She would tell me all these stories of these guys she was meeting, some of the things she’d done and their reactions to it. I kept wondering why she was telling me these things and I’d ask her some questions here and there.

    The ladies told me (two of the women overheard her telling me this stuff & passed it on to my wife) that she was trying to entice me by telling me these things, as in trying to convince me to try to meet her somewhere without coming out and asking me. Sure, she was very cute, but she was also 22 and I was 35 (and no, I certainly never thought I “had it like that); for some that might have seemed like heaven but for me, I was just confused.

    It ended because I took a promotion and moved to a different area where she wasn’t sitting directly behind me anymore, and really hadn’t thought about it much after that. Thank goodness I guess. 😉
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    • Holly J says:

      I don’t know what that woman was trying to do, Mitch, but she wasn’t very good at it. Seduction doesn’t involve telling tales about yourself and other romantic or sexual interests and gauging the prospective new guy’s reaction. That’s just kind of gross.

      The “art of seduction” is much more focused, much more “eyes on the prize.” All it really takes is sincere flattery, focused interest, confidence – and, largely, just showing up for the game. It is a conquest. And sorry, gentlemen, it just isn’t that hard. Women have been taught to be on the lookout for it and wary (well, most women) from the time they’re three. Men have been taught it’s their role to BE the “seducer.” Or at least the one to make the first move, and to close the deal.We’re taught to make their jobs hard; they’re taught to be grateful – both for the challenge and for landing the prize. (Some take it too far and start believing that it’s always their God-given right to “win,” which it is most decidedly NOT.)

      Turning the tables – if done subtly and not to the point of obsessive, weirdly stalkerish behavior (people – men and women – aren’t always good at this) – is almost 100% effective. Especially for a skilled negotiator who is willing to walk away with a sincere smile and an acquiescent little tilt of the head to signal regretful defeat. It’s human psychology at its most basic.

      Where I fell a little short, 31+ years ago, is in the “willing to walk away” department. I just landed my prize and kept him. 🙂 (And he’s GENTLEMAN enough to tell you HE landed the prize. Either way, I still feel like I won.)
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    • You had some people who could at least tell you! Since I did not have access to such women or men, may be I did not even know if and when someone tried to seduce me! Well within the realms of possibility.

  4. It doesn’t sound like fun to me.
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  5. Mike says:

    I’ve never had the temptation and wouldn’t know what to do about it if it happened. However, I know several men who did — and acted on the temptation — after they moved into executive positions. At least 2 got caught at work and lost their jobs! (They are now executives in other companies in the same field)
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  6. Cathy in NZ says:

    to me it’s intriguing…almost like going to a fancy dress party in gear that no one recognises you – so you get up to all kinds of flirting; doing things that your true self would never do – knowing that tomorrow you could a/ have a hangover b/find yourself in some elses bed c/ just be at home on your own or d/ something else maybe arrested for disorderly behaviour or e/ no memory other than smeared lipstick and no shoes!

  7. kylie says:

    More than once I have been attracted into a foolhardy course of action. I am nowhere near smart enough to be able to achieve such a thing, even if I wanted to
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  8. Grannymar says:

    I would not call that woman a seduction addict, In my book she had an addiction for sexual gratification, HER OWN, and to hell with all the men round her. Ramana you would not want to know a female like that who would take and run!

    As to your question ‘will I still be interested in being seduced?’ Of couse you will, with a definition of: attracts or charms! A toddler in the park will seduce you with a wide eyed smile, Even Chuki the dog can seduce you into playing with her.

    I agree with Rule #34!
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  9. Maxi says:

    Love this post, Rummy. Still, I gotta tell ya. Women such as this are extremely rare. Aaaand, being the gentleman that you are this type is not for you.
    blessings ~ maxi
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  10. shackman says:

    Sounds to me like the woman was simply a restless soul. I’ve known both men and women like that. I am not at all built that way – I suspect my shyness prevents it. As to the gentleman issue – I think we both are. But the art of seduction does rely on attraction which is partly physical so I have to disagree with the statement.
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  11. tammy j says:

    am i the only person who thinks elizabeth gilbert and her book…
    eat pray love was/is an egotistical pile of drivel?
    i kept trying to like her and the book… and never quite succeeded.
    and now… reading her ‘true confession’ about her adrenaline high when seducing men… well… my original thoughts about her are confirmed.
    seduction is always about power i think. one to another.
    but as in the case of dogs… or babies… i’m willing to be seduced any day! a little wet black nose and wagging tail… be still my heart!!!!
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  12. Mother says:

    Well, first of all, I never thought of seduction as a path to something inadvisable…more into a joint adventure that one person wanted more than the other. In that context…I have certainly been seduced into all sorts of activities (more in those years before I truly knew my own mind).
    As to whether you are a gentleman, judging by Rule #34, I would think, “yes” since you have never attempted physically to cause me to change my ideas or my path.
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  13. Anna says:

    You are definitely a gentleman who would not compromise any woman, even an anonymous one by saying she tried to seduce you. As far as the rule #34, it is a very good rule especially if you are into seducing an intelligent woman. I think you know this as well. So, you are definitely a 100% gentleman.

  14. Of course, the master seducers in the world right now are the members of the Islamic State.
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  15. Big John says:

    As one who was a teenager in the 1950’s (a very different world) I never managed to seduce any teenage girls. However I did meet a young lady who was in her late twenties, and although I wouldn’t exactly say that she seduced me, I sure did learn a lot ! … Happy days .. 🙂
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  16. I assume you’ve read and/or watched Dangerous Liaisons? (And/or Cruel Intentions – a fairly well-done modern-day adaptation?) “Casual seduction” can be a cruel thing – or it can backfire (or, as my dad used to say, “Boy chases girl till girl catches boy.”) People really shouldn’t toy carelessly with other people’s hearts. Not all seduction leads to heartbreak, but carelessly playing games and abusing power often do.
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    • Yes. Your dad was a wise man. I agree that people really should not toy carelessly with other people’s emotions. But happen it does, more frequently than we would like and it is always sad to see the aftermath.

  17. Holly J says:

    And you think that’s not an abuse of power? 🙂
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