RAIN.

A dear friend sent this link to me which I found to be interesting and topical enough to share with my readers. Dr. Sandeep Kelkar is a practicing paediatrician in Thane. a town very near Mumbai. He has had considerable experience handling parents and this approach obviously is something that he has developed to destress his patients’ parents. This is as applicable to us as to parents of children.

Addiction To Smart Phones.

I did not know that my son Ranjan was  annoyed with the way his life got tied up to his cellphone.  He received a parcel from Amazon and on opening it as I was nearby, he showed me what he had bought.

He has just got himself a Feature Phone which reminds me of my very first mobile phone.  Mine was not a flip phone as this one is but, it had the same kind of keyboard and functions as this one has.  Many features that my current Smart Phone has is absent in it.

And, just before I organised my thoughts on how to go about writing a blog post on this development, I received a link to a very interesting article on the same subject from a dear friend.  Synchronicity at it again!

I am not as tied to my smart phone as Harford was but, I too am seriously considering going off social media for some time to see what changes it brings about in my life.

Would you?

Fulfillment And Unfulfillment.

“No one achieves complete success in life but, even partial fulfilment is attained by but, a few. Unfulfilment is the normal condition of man.” ~ Irawati Karve.

This post has been inspired by Ekoshapu’s post on Reunion. Since I attend reunions regularly, what the poem says resonates with me.

The heartthrob of the school,

is a man grim and somber.

That lanky little girl,

is now a weightlifter.

The topper of the class,

is a happy homemaker.

Back bencher of the lot,

is an entrepreneur.

The flamboyant fashionista,

became a dreaded lawyer.

Oft ignored average Joe,

turned a well known writer.

The one who failed math paper,

is a fashion designer,

and one who often got to stand outside the class,

is a respected army officer.

The reunion taught me how,

people come with many layers,

and told me why we should,

never judge a book by its cover…

Let’s remember this every time we step into our classes;

Each child is a potential success story!! Lets help them write it

On reflecting on the topic, it also occurred to me that in these reunions, one rarely comes across someone talking about how s/he has failed whereas irrespective of whether one came from a background of privilege and money or the absence of it, the successes inevitably talked about it and maintained that they are self made successes. As a corollary, I suppose that the failures are also self made failures but, they are unwilling to admit it. They will blame everything possible other than themselves for their failures. Usually, the government, competition or often, bankers.

To reinforce this trend of thought, I have recently had to interact with two young friends of both categories and I dug up the Nightingale quote for the latter. He was quite stunned that it had not occurred to him and we spent quite a long time discussing how things could have been different had he done somethings differently or not done somethings at all. Since he is quite a determined sort, he has perhaps understood the situation and will try again.

To the former, it was easier to point out the advantages that he had to start with before he became an entrepreneur to deflate his ego a bit and give some credit to his parents and background. Subsequently, his father rang me up to thank me for doing that! I must have done something right for the news to reach the father!

Which brings me to the second quote on unfulfilment being the norm for most of us.  I think that Irawati Karve has hit the nail on the head but, am willing to be corrected by any of my reader/s who may think otherwise.

Retirement.

As should be obvious, that man could well be me, a retired old geezer solving crossword puzzles to keep himself out of mischief.

Since I started to work when most middle class Indians were still in college, my great ambition was to retire when I was fifty. I was not able to but did retire at the age of 52. At that point of time, I had very valuable assets, a reasonably good pension, money in the bank and most importantly, an empty nest with an independent son having flown the coop.

I was however pulled out of retirement on other occasions on short term assignments but, by and large, even those did no take away my attitude towards life, one of taking it easy and not being ambitious to achieve big goals.

I am now 75 and so when I came across this piece of information it was an Aha moment for me. Just look at this table from the article.
Table 1 – Actuarial Study of life span vs. age at retirement.

And just as I was planning the outline for this post, I came across another very interesting piece of information which is even more interesting. I hope that this young man succeeds and spends many more relaxed years solving crossword puzzles or whatever else that may interest him. I wish that I had had that kind of an environment when I was that age!