Disgustingly Cheerful!

Positive attitude

Early this morning when I had finished my morning chores and just sat down to read the first newspaper of the day, I got a phone call from a friend and on hearing my cheerful greeting he asked me “how can you be so disgustingly cheerful this early in the day?”.

Okay, I confess that I am disgustingly cheerful not only early in the mornings but in all the telephone calls that I receive.

Anyway, my being always cheerful whether on the phone or on a face to face meeting,  is often misunderstood as being happy.  I confess that I am as human as the next person and can experience sadness, melancholy, joy, frustration and just about every other emotion that everyone experiences.  I simply refuse to let whatever is bugging me at that point of time come out and spoil the mood of the other person/s.  My good friend Ramesh has given me the nickname Swamiji and insists on calling me by that only, because he says that I am always cheerful!  He is still to come to grips with my explanation that I am just eudaimoniac! I don’t know if that word is correct and I am ready to be corrected.

Martin Seligman calls that state of mind as “Flourishing”.

Anita, Have I annoyed you enough?

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41 Responses to Disgustingly Cheerful!

  1. Linda P. says:

    You’re not annoying me! While I hope I can be empathetic to those who want to talk about their concerns, I dislike being snarled at unexpectedly because I’ve haplessly deigned to call or greet someone.

  2. shackman says:

    Whether correct or not the term eudaimoniac is best left to the lofty egos of pseudo intellectuals who like to display their sophistication with their use of $5.00 words. You are simply a nice guy that makes a conscious effort to be polite, respectful and pleasant when greeting others. To those who find that somehow offensive I say “Get a life!” or – and knowing your dislike of swearing – I offer a non-vulgar fuggum! 🙂
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  3. Big John says:

    “eudaimoniac” .. Reading about it gave me a headache and I still don’t know what it means. I much prefer to ‘flourish’ … “Oh, when your smiling… when your smiling, the whole world .. etc.” .. 🙂

  4. Max Coutinho says:

    Hi Rummy,

    I’m “disgustingly cheerful” as well (didn’t know that was a “sin”) 😉
    Like you, I don’t get absorbed by life’s vicissitudes.

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  5. Looney says:

    It is always good to have a few people around whose self-worth and purpose in life is measured by the misery they go through. Offering them kindness and charity is then quite appropriate.
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  6. Just recently someone considered dropping my blog because I’m always so “damned cheerful” and live like a monk. Well, yeah. My title was chosen for a reason. 🙂 It’s a great life.
    Cheerful Monk recently posted..Checking Facts

  7. That’s a lovely greeting! I need more eudaimonic people in my life, Rummuser. I think I am the same, most of the time – not 100%, maybe, but it’s more in my nature than being gloomy or sad. I was just telling someone this morning that I pretty much laughed my way through cancer diagnosis and treatment a few years ago. Why not? What’s the point of crying and adding the insult of a stuffy nose to all the other misery? 🙂

    I wish more people could be eudaimonic. It’s a good word, Rummuser, and I think you used it perfectly.
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  8. bikehikebabe says:

    Cheerful early will either help, or annoy if the cheerfulness isn’t shared.

    • Anita says:

      I agree, Bikehikebabe. As I’ve replied to Holly, whether you’re ‘disgustingly’ cheerful or ‘annoyingly’ chipper, I think both descriptives arise from the state of mind of the other person. I think a little sensitivity is required when unleashing ones cheerfulness on some unsuspecting sod who’s had a bad day. Cheerfulness and compassion together go a long way towards raising another’s spirits – and isn’t that the point?

  9. Anita says:

    Hmm…not sure why I’m being singled out here. Methinks you’re simply amusing yourself 🙂

    Like you, I’m almost always cheerful on the phone or when I meet someone, no matter what’s going on in my life (and you know there’s a lot going on). I think it’s been that way since I was a child…a need to prove to the world (and myself) that things are fine. One grows out of the need as time passes, but some reactions become almost reflexive – like smiling as soon as you see a familiar face.

    Regarding your eudaimonia, I prefer Aristotle’s interpretation “virtuous activity in accordance with reason”. Not just an inordinately happy, but a flourishing mind, as Cooper said. This is why I dislike being called a ‘nice’ person. If I must, I’d rather be seen as a ‘good’ person.

    There are different ways that your happiness affects another. It could double their joy or halve it, depending on what state of mind that other person is in. Anyway, better eudaimonia than schadenfreude, I always say 🙂

    • “Nice” seems so…bland. I like this eudaimonia; it seems more akin to “contented” than to annoyingly chipper. 😉 We all have our ups and downs, but no sense dragging everyone with us when we’re down, and no reason not to share the joy indiscriminately.

      Not that indulging in a little schadenfreude isn’t fun, now and then… mainly when the other’s brought it on themselves. 🙂 See, “nice” doesn’t cut it, does it?
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      • Anita says:

        Hello Holly 🙂 Yes, ‘nice’ is definitely not how I would want to be described…it is incredibly tame. But whether you’re ‘disgustingly’ cheerful or ‘annoyingly’ chipper, I think both descriptives arise from the state of mind of the other person 🙂

    • Youthinks right. No, schadenfreude has its place in our lives and I have been toying with a blogpost on that topic as well.

  10. Cathy in NZ says:

    I haven’t said it for awhile at these blogs…”it depends”
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  11. nick says:

    I tend to be the same – invariably cheerful to other people whatever I may be feeling inside. As you say, why should I inflict my negative feelings on an innocent person who has nothing to do with my inner emotional state?
    nick recently posted..Jumping the gun

  12. tammy j says:

    i didn’t know you don’t like swearing rummy.
    does that mean i can’t say arse anymore?
    i’m glad you’re cheery.
    i like cheery.
    it beats moody every time for me.
    tammy j recently posted..in our blood

    • You can use arse and the American ass as much as you want. I use it at need. It is difficult not to when there are so many who fit exactly that description with a hold attached to it.

  13. Linda P. says:

    I meant that you were not annoying me by being cheerful, not annoying me by snarling! I didn’t imagine that you were the kind of person who snarled. Perhaps I misunderstood the point of your post, as I thought it was a post on how your cheerfulness could be annoying to some people.

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