My blogger and virtual friend Marie posted this on her facebook page yesterday. Please click on the image for a larger resolution.

Today is the eighth anniversary of the death of Urmeela. What the old man says resonates with me.

Strangely enough today is also Holi. Yesterday when Manjiree and Ranjan were discussing what should be done today, I simply said that it should be like any other day and we should not do anything out of the way either for the anniversary or the celebration of Holi.

My way of dealing with loss.

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20 Responses to Loss!

  1. I’m sorry you had to lose Urmela so early. 🙁

    I had trouble eating for over six months after my mother died 22 years ago, but mostly I was grateful that I could be with her and help take care of her at the end. When the memories come now they are deep and touching, but mostly happy.

    I’m assuming Andy and I don’t have much time left together, especially considering how fast time is flying, so I focus on enjoying him while we’re both still here. I do tell him that I get to die first!
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  2. shackman says:

    I just went through the third anniversary of Lynn’s death and what would have been her 68th birthday too. His words resonated with me as well.
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  3. tammy j says:

    better to celebrate her life than her death.
    my heart to yours rummy.
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  4. I’m sorry – I know that just doesn’t get easier.
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  5. My favorite words in this passage are “in between the waves (of grief) there is life” What a deep and beautiful message! It appears to give you great comfort.

  6. Kaitlin says:

    How touching. My heart and thoughts to you, your family, your grief, and your ability to move forward and see the good in life. That passage is so poignant. Thank you for sharing.

  7. nick says:

    I’m sorry you’re still going through pain and loss. But hopefully there are also many happy memories to cherish. That’s a wonderful Facebook post. The analogy with shipwrecks and giant waves sounds absolutely right (though luckily I’ve never experienced that depth of grief myself). I guess all you can do is hang on, struggle through, and keep going.

    • I found the post quite touching and remarkable. That is why I wanted to share with my readers. Each of us has to find a way to handle such grief but the message from the writer is simply too poignant and realistic to ignore.

  8. you can apply that old guys analogy to many aspects of a life – not just the death of another well loved significant other…(not demeaning your late wife or you)

  9. Wisewebwoman says:

    It’s never easy Ramana. Our loved ones squeeze our hearts so much at times it hurts.

    So very sorry.

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  10. Mother says:

    This writing is eloquent and resonates with me. Blessings on you and your family.
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