What’s Your Sign?

Jean at her blog ‘Transforming Stress Into Personal Power’ has a new post which has inspired this post.

I do not believe in horrorscopes. I do not read them to see how my day or week or month or year will go. I do not believe that our future can be predicted by horrorscopes.

I however was quite intrigued when a friend from Hongkong sent me a link to some descriptions of me based on the Chinese horoscope system. According to that, I am a sheep and a water sheep at that. I share with you, extracts. I am sure that all water sheep will be happy to receive such descriptions, as I am. I hope that I am all that I am supposed to be.

Sheep simply want a bit of peace. They enjoy carrying on with life in their own quiet, individual way, content to be in the middle of it all rather than to be leading it. Sheep are quiet and calm people. They enjoy cultural things and focus much of their energy on artistic hobbies. Sheep are easygoing and relaxed, happy to be going with the flow.

Sheep are nurturers. They enjoy taking care of other people. Like their animal counterpart, Sheep people are pretty calm individuals. Their personalities are quiet, reserved and soothing. They like to be in the company of others but do not wish to be in the middle of everything. They like standing in the back, watching contently from the sidelines, as others dazzle the company. Sheep will generally do better than they are aware because they are so good at keeping the peace and accomplishing the tasks at hand.

THE WATER SHEEP

Like their element, Water Sheep go with the flow of things, content to stroll through life like a Sunday evening walk. They are easy to get along with and live with and can make quite lovable roommates and companions. They enjoy the security of their homes and will generally plant their roots and stay in one place. They are well-spoken and witty, but lack self-confidence. They can pout when they don’t get their way.

(Except for the last two negatives, I think that the description is fairly accurate as far as I can read myself.)

Sheep truly enjoy being at home. They spend their time there doing arts and crafts, cooking and knitting. Sheep are most comfortable on their couches in the privacy of their homes, relaxed and tranquil. Their homes are as simple as they like to feel. They are elegant and timeless, and their homes reflect their artistic flair. The Sheep will go to any expense to be comfortable and to enjoy convenience.

Among many other reasonably accurate predictions of the sheep traits, another one gem is:

CANCERIAN SHEEP

Kind, genuine and gentle, these Sheep display as much the power to give love as the need to get love. They can pressure themselves about being able to support their families, but always put family first.

How about you? Do you believe in horoscopes/predictions etc?

Children – II

In a comment on my post “Children”, Nitika said “I do believe I belong to my parents.” This post is inspired by her comment and is addressed to her.

But of course, children who believe that they belong to their parents are blessed.

My post was addressed to parents dear Nitika. The more parents let go of their children, the more children would want to belong to such parents. The problem arises when parents do not let their children go. This is not the physical letting go that Omar Khayyam talks about, but the morbid attachment that most parents develop for their children even in the latter’s adult life, and the power games that they play with their children.

Let us take the cases of many unhappy marriages of today. Aren’t most cases about the inability of the husband to reconcile his relationship with his wife and the demands put on him by his mother? Or the husband with his wife’s parent/s? I have seen both types of problems and I can assure you that, this is entirely due to the parents’ inability to let the children go and build new lives and form new relationships.

In India particularly, the process of breaking up of the joint family and setting up unitary families is not as complete as in the West, and even where due to paucity of space, such break up does take place, the emotional break up does not fully take place.

When someone as young as you says that you belong to your parents, it is a tribute to your parents. It is however not a tribute if the parents claim that their children belong to them. That is the message that Omar Khayyam conveys, as I understand it.

I salute your parents.

Samsung Customer Service – II

My brother Arvind having had no assistance from the Samsung Chennai team finally wrote a letter to a local paper giving the history.

What transpired subsequently is reproduced below in a follow up letter that he wrote.

“Sirs.

I wrote a letter to your paper which you had published on17th January.

Obviously, some one higher up In Samsung had read that letter, and realised the damage caused by it to their name. On the 18th, I was contacted by them and was assured that a replacement oven would be sent to me by the dealer from whom I had purchased the oven. They trotted out some lame excuses for the delay in replacing.

Today, a new oven was sent to me. I owe this entirely to the publishing of my letter by your paper.

Besides the replacement, I received a few phone calls from similar disgruntled customers of Samsung with similar complaints. I suggested that they write to you, as I had done. But, before doing so, they seem to have contacted the dealers from whom they bought their appliances, and threatened to write to you, citing my letter to you. the dealers, invariably, stirred into action, and requesting them to give them a few days time, got the replacements done.

You had posed a question yesterday, to your readers, of the efficacy of publishing such letters. Well, here is your answer.

You had also asked about the reader’s views on editing their letters. As long as the gist of the letter is intact, you are at liberty to edit a long winded letter to a short one, keeping other legalities in mind.

I once again thank you.”

What a pity that action is taken only when customers write or threaten to write to local news papers!

Revenge!

Welcome to the Loose Bloggers’ Consortium, where every Friday, some of us post on the same topic. Today’s topic Revenge, has been chosen by gaelikaa.

Gaelikaa, that message is for you. I will select a topic that you will find as difficult to write on as I find this.

This is what revenge can mean.

“Acquiring weapons for the defense of Muslims is a religious duty. If I have indeed acquired these weapons, then I thank God for enabling me to do so. And if I seek to acquire these weapons, I am carrying out a duty. It would be a sin for Muslims not to try to possess the weapons that would prevent the infidels from inflicting harm on Muslims.” – Osama Bin Laden, Time Magazine Dec 1998

“Swami Aseemanand allegedly admitted to placing bombs on a train to Pakistan, at a Sufi shrine and at a mosque.

He has also allegedly confessed to carrying out two assaults on the southern Indian town of Malegaon, which has a large Muslim population.

He has been remanded in custody for the four attacks.” – BBC News.

I think that ‘revenge’ is a waste of time, emotion, energy and resources. It usually results in a reinforcing cycle of madness. I confess that there are occasions when I do feel like taking revenge for some perceived hurt, but that phase usually passes. It doesn’t grow like a cancer as it does on some of my acquaintances. I now see chain mails reflecting such emotions on the increase and do feel that rationality has disappeared from our lives.

I hope that nothing ever happens to me that will make me want to take revenge. I also hope that I do not do anything knowingly or unknowingly that can result in someone wanting to take revenge.

Samsung Customer Service Sucks.

My brother Arvind Rajgopaul had purchased a ‘Samsung’ micro wave oven from an authorised dealer vide bill noVC1856, on  17-1-2010.

On 7-11-2010, he had registered a complaint with their customer service (complaint no:8407009948) about this oven.

A service mechanic visited him, and after inspecting the oven said that the oven is not operable, and that it has to be replaced. He took a photocopy of the bill and promised to take action in a weeks time.

Arvind made 5 more calls to the customer service cell , and one more mechanic visited him and confirmed that the oven needs replacement,or a cheque to the value will be sent. since this
oven has gone defective within the guarantee  period, they should have given  a free replacement. They have not done so, and are probably playing for time, since the one year guarantee period ends in a few days time.

Arvind has sent official complaints to their e-mail address three times, and every time, the reply is that some one will contact me. I have repeated the problem to all of them, but no action has taken place.

Samsung, this is not expected of a company of your reputation.

Children.

I cannot read any newspaper without some comment on Amy Chua now. My own take on pushing our children or not is well known to my readers.

I just want to revive a memory.

Your children are not your children,

They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.

They come through you, but not from you.

And though they are with you,

they do not belong to you.

Who they become has less to do with who you are,

than who they are.

You may give them your love,

but not your thoughts or values.

By your example, you show a way that is yours,

as they search for theirs.

You are the bow from which your children,

as living arrows, are sent forth.

The Archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

and he bends you with His might,

that

His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending, in the Archer’s hand,

be steadfastly true to yourself.

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

so too does

He love the bow that is strong and stable.”

– Omar Khayyam