Handwriting And Signature II.

Ursula and Cheerful Monk wish to know the results of my taking the quizzes on my earlier post.

The Handwriting Quiz. I am sorry I am unable to provide my original handwriting. This is post my ulnar palsy attack.

handwriting1. Average handwriting – Well adjusted/adaptable.
2. Narrow spacing between words – Can’t stand to be alone / Tend to crowd people.
3. Rounded letters – Artistic / Creative.
4. Connected letters – Logical and systematic.
5. Crossing the t in the middle – Confident / Comfortable in my own skin.
6. Closed O – Private / Introvert.
7. Dot perfectly over the i – Detail oriented / Organised / Emphatic.

My own take on 2. I like my solitude but do like company. I do not think that I tend to crowd people. And on 6, that is my first choice but I can be public and extrovert at need without discomfort, what is known as ambivert.

Other than these, I like what I see!

Signature. You can get some entertainment from an earlier post

sign.

1. Full first and last names? No. Keeping myself closed off from others in some way, creating a barrier.
2. Period after the name? No.
3. Ending with a squiggle or a long line? No.
4. Entire signature illegible? Yes. Don’t want people to see the real me.
5. Capital letters larger than the rest? Yes. Good self esteem.
6. Underline the signature? Yes. Self reliant.
7. Signature goes uphill? Yes. Optimistic, Cheerful.
8. Signature different from handwriting? Yes. I am not allowing others to see the real me.
9. Capitals extremely large compared to the other letters? Yes. Want to be well known, socially recognised, famous even!
10. In personal letters placing signature on the right side. Forward thinking and future oriented.

Here again I am puzzled with only one finding, the first one. I don’t think that I keep myself closed off from others in some way, creating a barrier. Other than that, I like what I see here too.

The Lunchbox.

The_Lunchbox_poster

This is a much acclaimed film that was released in India last year to rave reviews. At that time I had seen it in a theater and was quite impressed with the total experience but since I was not reviewing films in my blog then, I had not written about my appreciation of it.

A few days ago when I had reviewed the film The Hundred Foot Journey, a friend commented on facebook that she had seen that film as well as The Lunchbox recently and had nice feelings about both. I therefore decided to see the film again and got a DVD of it and saw it again earlier this evening.

I rarely see a film twice within such a such short gap but this is one film that I am glad that I did. From the beginning to the end, though everything was familiar and there was no suspense, I enjoyed seeing many aspects of Mumbai life with which I am quite familiar. The story is very plausible and the characters come alive with superb performances by Irrfan Khan, Nimrat Kaur and Nawazuddin Siddiqui. Tight direction and editing has made it a very enjoyable viewing experience despite it being a second viewing.

It is very unlike usual Bollywood movies and there are no fight sequences, lovers chasing each other around bushes and singing songs nor irrelevant comedy scenes.

If you can get to see it, if you have not already, it is worth seeing. This is another film that gets a fullhouse rating from me.  [rating=6]

Matrimony.

Three years ago the LBC wrote on Marriage and my own post generated quite a bit of comments and responses.   That topic was suggested by Conrad The Old Fossil who is on a sabbatical from  the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where currently five of us write on the same topic every Friday. Today’s topic has been chosen by me. The four other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order,  AshokgaelikaaMaxi, and Shackman. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, or not at all this week, do give some allowance for that too!

You may therefore wonder why I chose a topic that has already been written about earlier.  A few months ago when the LBC was compiling a list of topics to write on this year, three of my young friends were quite desperate to get married.  To use their own reasons for this desperation, one due to loneliness, having already tasted matrimony once and divorced, and the other two with no earlier experience of matrimony but with their hormones playing havoc with their being.  The matter was being discussed with me by all three of them with varying intensity, and up popped the topic for the LBC list.

Coincidentally enough, one of them annonced his  engagement just yesterday;   I attended the wedding reception of the other hormone case yesterday evening, and exchanged notes on types of love with the lonely individual. just the evening before last.  And here I am today, overcoming my writer’s block at the altar of the LBC to write about matrimony!

In India, the pressure to get married starts when one is quite young.  Apart from the hormone problem,  pressure comes from family, friends and even well meaning strangers that you will meet on trains and planes who will try to find your marital status so that they can suggest a match. The pressure takes these forms.

Why matrimony?

Matrimony, the process, for most urban Indians starts with a classified advertisement.

matrimonial ads

There are other avenues open to finding the better half of one’s life such as, family network, marriage brokers, now sophisticatedly called bureaus, and increasingly, social networking websites.

In India, there are three distinctly different types of marriages, the most common, even today being the arranged marriage using the first two as well as the classified advertising route; the so called love marriage where the boy and the girl meet somewhere and decide to get married; and the third the second being given the blessing of both sets of parents who allow a period of courtship before the formal marriage ceremony itself.

One now increasingly comes across live-in relationships as well which either end up in marriages or break up with the very rare long lived ones going on for decades.

Having got married one or more of the following things happen. That is the state of matrimony. 1. Joyful companionship for the rest of their lives; 2. Antagonist staying together, primarily for the sake of children and societal expectations; 3. You go your way, I will go mine but let us stay married – primarily when a lot of money is involved; 4. One spouse is unfaithful till found out; 5. One spouse gets tangled up in an abusive relationship; 6. Long distance relationship and so on till finally parting of ways takes place either a simple parting or a divorce.

Perhaps it is just that I am blind to happy married couple who do not have time for me, but I am increasingly coming across instances of all the situations bar the first one.

I think that this is because the value system that my generation grew up in is no longer the value system for young people.  There seems to be a remarkable resistance to adjust in relationships.  I am also informed by very observant young people that women no longer have to face stigma if they break up relationships.  This may well be true in urban areas and I suspect that in rural India options one and two would be in operation.

But for all that, the institution of matrimony still flourishes. And that surprises me. Does it you?

Enlightened Master.

My self appointed acolyte Pravin sent me this mail to celebrate his engagement.  I have simply copy pasted the entire mail.  The cartoon at the bottom is my contribution.  I am suffering from a writer’s block, not a brain block.

“Master Master read this…

I am not going to ask you this question 😀

But yes I would say though – “But you are a wise and enlightened man!

STUDENT: Master, what happens to us when we die?
MASTER: How should I know?
STUDENT: But you are a wise and enlightened man!
MASTER: Yes, but I am not a dead one. ”  

'It was nice of tou yo come all this way but most people just visit my website.'

Writer’s Block.

The pages are still blank, but there is a miraculous feeling of the words being there, written in invisible ink and clamoring to become visible.

~ Vladimir Nabokov

No, I am not about to write the next Lolita.

The feeling of the words is there but they are not flowing out on to the screen.

I am taking a break from blogging till the flow starts again.

Ill be back