A Walk Among The Tombstones.

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It is strange that there was never a trailer in any of the recent films that I saw in theaters about the release of this film.  So, when I saw the advertisements for it in the newspapers the only thing that attracted to me was the fact that Liam Neeson was acting in it.  I have been a fan of his since his Schindler’s List hit Indian theaters.

My friend Ramesh and I have a pact;  we must see at least one film a week together followed by a snack or a meal and we have been able to keep that going for quite some time now. So, I rang him up and suggested that we see this together yesterday and we duly did that.  We also fulfilled the second part of the pact by having some very nice snacks and tea at the food court in the mall where the theater is located.  I was also able to do some long overdue shopping at the mall.  All in all a good afternoon’s outing in good company.

This week promises to be more interesting as we both have not seen a highly rated Hindi film and it is likely that we will go to it before the week is over.  If it is of some relevance to my regular readers, I shall review that too after seeing it.  In the meanwhile, here goes my review of A Walk Among The Tombstones.

Unlike most films, this films does not depend on any female actress for any contribution other than as some background information. That makes it very unusual. It also unapologetically brings in the Twelve Step Program of the Alcoholics Anonymous as part of the background but that fits in perfectly with the story and the characters using that in the storyline.

It is a powerful story told simply and the violence is not over board like many new detective stories now a days tend to be.  Characters develop nicely and the director ensures that the actors deliver credible performances.  And my favourite actor delivers a memorable performance.  I give the film [rating=6].  Having thoroughly enjoyed the film I am contemplating getting the book to read too!

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The Best Career Advice Ever.

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A Guy Asked Mike Rowe For Career Advice. The Response He Got Is Something Everyone can learn from.

Mike Rowe is best known as host of The Discovery Channel’s ‘Dirty Jobs’. The TV personality is hugely popular and gets a ton of fan mail, but one particular letter really caught his attention: a young fan had written to him in search of career advice. Rowe’s response was brilliant – when you read it, you’ll see why.

Hey Mike!

I’ve spent this last year trying to figure out the right career for myself and I still can’t figure out what to do. I have always been a hands on kind of guy and a go-getter. I could never be an office worker. I need change, excitement, and adventure in my life, but where the pay is
steady. I grew up in construction and my first job was a restoration project. I love everything outdoors. I play music for extra money. I like trying pretty much everything, but get bored very easily. I want a career that will always keep me happy, but can allow me to have a family and get some time to travel. I figure if anyone knows jobs its you so I was
wondering your thoughts on this if you ever get the time!

Thank you!– Parker Hall.

Here’s Rowe’s brilliant reply:

Hi Parker,

My first thought is that you should learn to weld and move to North Dakota. The opportunities are enormous, and as a “hands-on go-getter,” you’re qualified for the work. But after reading your post a second time, it occurs to me that your qualifications are not the reason you can’t find the career you want.

I had drinks last night with a woman I know. Let’s call her Claire. Claire just turned 42. She’s cute, smart, and successful. She’s frustrated though, because she can’t find a man. I listened all evening about how difficult her search has been. About how all the “good ones”
were taken. About how her other friends had found their soul-mates, and how it wasn’t fair that she had not.

“Look at me,” she said. “I take care of myself. I’ve put myself out there. Why is this so hard?” “How about that guy at the end of the bar,” I said. “He keeps looking at you.” “Not my type.”“Really? How do you know?”“I just know.”“Have you tried a dating site?” I asked. “Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!”  “Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over – maybe try living in another city?” “What? Leave San Francisco? Never!” “How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters…? ”She looked
at me like I had two heads. “Why the hell would I do that?”

Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!!

I didn’t tell her this, because Claire has the capacity for sudden violence. But it’s true. She complains about being alone, even though her rules have more or less guaranteed she’ll stay that way. She has built a wall between herself and her goal. A wall made of conditions and expectations. Is it possible that you’ve built a similar wall?

Consider your own words. You don’t want a career – you want the “right” career. You need
“excitement” and “adventure,” but not at the expense of stability. You want lots of “change” and the “freedom to travel,” but you need the certainty of “steady pay.” You talk about being “easily bored” as though boredom is out of your control. It isn’t. Boredom is a choice. Like tardiness. Or interrupting. It’s one thing to “love the outdoors,” but you take it a step further. You vow to “never” take an office job. You talk about the needs of your family, even though that family doesn’t exist. And finally, you say the career you describe must “always” make you “happy.”

These are my thoughts. You may choose to ignore them and I wouldn’t blame you
– especially after being compared to a 42 year old woman who can’t find love. But since you asked…

Stop looking for the “right” career, and start looking for a job. Any job. Forget about what
you like. Focus on what’s available. Get yourself hired. Show up early. Stay late. Volunteer for the scut work. Become indispensable. You can always quit later, and be no worse off than you are today. But don’t waste another year looking for a career that doesn’t exist. And most of all, stop worrying about your happiness. Happiness does not come from a
job. It comes from knowing what you truly value, and behaving in a way that’s consistent with those beliefs.

Many people today resent the suggestion that they’re in charge of the way the feel. But trust me, Parker. Those people are mistaken. That was a big lesson from Dirty Jobs, and I learned it several hundred times before it stuck. What you do, who you’re with, and how you feel about the world around you, is completely up to you.Good luck –

Mike.

All Is Well That Ends Well.

This topic has been suggested by gaelikaa for the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where currently six of us write on the same topic every Friday.  I hope that you have enjoyed my contribution to that effort.  The five other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order,  AshokgaelikaaMaxi, and Shackman and The Old Fossil. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, or not at all this week, do give some allowance for that too!

Phyllis Diller Quotes.

My friend Saraswathy surprised me with these Phyllis Diller quotes which I think will amuse all my readers.

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Whatever  you may look like, marry  a man your own age.As your beauty fades, so  will his     eyesight.



Housework  can’t kill you, but why take a chance?

Cleaning your house  while your kids are still growing up is  like shoveling the sidewalk  before it stops snowing.



The  reason women don’t play football is because 11 of them would never wear the  same outfit in public.


Best  way to get rid of kitchen odours: Eat out.

A bachelor is a guy  who never made the same mistake once.

I want my children to have  all the things I couldn’t afford.Then I want to move in with them.

Most children threaten at times to run away from home. This is the only  thing that keeps some parents going.


Any  time three New Yorkers get into a cab without an argument, a bank has just  been robbed.

We spend the first twelve months of our children’s  lives  teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve years telling  them to sit down and shut up.

Burt Reynolds once asked me out.I  was in his room.


What  I don’t like about office Christmas parties is looking for a job the next day.

The only time I ever enjoyed ironing was the day I accidentally  got gin in the steam iron.

His finest hour lasted a minute and a  half.



Old  age is when the liver spots show through your gloves.

My  photographs don’t do me justice -they just look like me.

I  admit, I have a tremendous sex drive. My boyfriend lives forty miles away.

Tranquillizers work only if you follow the advice on the bottle  –  keep away from children.

I asked the waiter, ‘Is this  milk fresh?’ He said, ‘Lady, three hours ago it was grass.’

The  reason the golf pro tells you to keep your head down is  so you can’t see  him laughing.

You know you’re old if they have discontinued your  blood type.