Driving Licence.

Validity of my driving licence expires today. I was alert enough to have gone through the process of applying for renewal a month ago and so now it is valid till December 5. 2020. While normally the validity period is for ten years, for senior citizens we have to get medically examined and certified to be fit enough to drive every five years! I am glad that the system has agreed that I am fit enough for that onerous chore.

This whole renewal process has got me reminiscing about my driving licence. While I was driving around without a driving licence from about sixteen years of age, I got my official driving licence only in 1962, when I was a few months short of 19 years old. Between 1972 and 1975, I was driving around without a valid driving licence and thank God, did not get involved in any accident or mishap. I discovered that my licence had expired three years after the event and had to get a new licence issued after some wire pulling and also paying a hefty fine. Since then however I have been quite prompt in renewing the licence on time and am happy that I did this time too.

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When I tell younger people about the tests that I had to take before I got my licence, like sticking my arm out to signal turns, slowing down, stopping etc, they look at me with total disbelief! We did not have turn indicators or if we had, they stuck out of the pillar behind the front door worked on a lever system!6a00d83452989a69e2017615215cab970c-800wi

The inspectors were martinets and most of us failed the first time we appeared for the tests as I did too.

It is however nice to be able to tell people that I have a driving licence issued in my name before their parents were born!

The Inner Child The Outer Child

Today’s topic for the weekly LBC post comes from Lin. Since I had never had to deal with the concept of the outer child, I had to undertake some research to understand the term before I could attempt to write on the topic. And, I am glad that I did.

I quote from an article in the Huffington Post by psychotherapist Susan Anderson.

“You have an Inner Child that represents your emotions and primal needs.

You have an Outer Child that represents your self-defeating behaviors.

You have an Adult self that needs to get stronger so it can nurture your Inner Child and tame your Outer Child so you can reach your potential for greater life and love.”

If you read the article you will come to understand, as I did what exactly self defeating behaviour is! As I understand it, all that it means is that the outer child is the action part of the duo of feeling and translating it into action. To the best of my knowledge, I have not ever thought that anything that I did ever was self defeating possibly with the exception of having acquired a habit of smoking! Since I have quit smoking, there is little that can be called self defeating in my behaviour now unless some independent observer comes along to point out otherwise.

The entire subject however was tackled differently by one of my favourite authors Viktor Frankl.
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I think that I have been able to use that gap quite effectively over my life and I continue to use it even now. As the oldies amongst us would say, I am measured in my ways!