Being Seduced.

Seduction

Okay, I am taking a very serious article to make a flippant point, and I hope that my readers will forgive me my flippancy.  The lady in this article deserves and gets all my sympathy but there is a side to the story that I need to address.

Why is it that if there are women like this, not one has ever seduced me or even tried to seduce me?

Okay, someone like one of my regular readers who I hesitate to name, is likely to turn around and ask me if I have seduced women like this woman has seduced men, and my answer is a categorical no.  In making that statement, let me hasten to add that I go by the definition of the word seducing as “Attract someone to a belief or into a course of action that is inadvisable or foolhardy.” (OED)

So, the next question then will be following that definition, will I still be interested in being seduced?  At my present stage of physical and mental development, the answer will have to be no, but perhaps say two or three decades ago, the answer would have been a resounding yes.

And about the little sticker on the top left, I leave you to decide whether I am a gentleman or not.

What about you dear reader?

 

54 thoughts on “Being Seduced.”

  3. Well… I guess someone was trying to seduce me, but I totally missed it. It was my wife (who I’d just started dating at the time) and a couple of women I was working with at the time who told me… and I was stunned.

    She would tell me all these stories of these guys she was meeting, some of the things she’d done and their reactions to it. I kept wondering why she was telling me these things and I’d ask her some questions here and there.

    The ladies told me (two of the women overheard her telling me this stuff & passed it on to my wife) that she was trying to entice me by telling me these things, as in trying to convince me to try to meet her somewhere without coming out and asking me. Sure, she was very cute, but she was also 22 and I was 35 (and no, I certainly never thought I “had it like that); for some that might have seemed like heaven but for me, I was just confused.

    It ended because I took a promotion and moved to a different area where she wasn’t sitting directly behind me anymore, and really hadn’t thought about it much after that. Thank goodness I guess. 😉
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    1. I don’t know what that woman was trying to do, Mitch, but she wasn’t very good at it. Seduction doesn’t involve telling tales about yourself and other romantic or sexual interests and gauging the prospective new guy’s reaction. That’s just kind of gross.

      The “art of seduction” is much more focused, much more “eyes on the prize.” All it really takes is sincere flattery, focused interest, confidence – and, largely, just showing up for the game. It is a conquest. And sorry, gentlemen, it just isn’t that hard. Women have been taught to be on the lookout for it and wary (well, most women) from the time they’re three. Men have been taught it’s their role to BE the “seducer.” Or at least the one to make the first move, and to close the deal.We’re taught to make their jobs hard; they’re taught to be grateful – both for the challenge and for landing the prize. (Some take it too far and start believing that it’s always their God-given right to “win,” which it is most decidedly NOT.)

      Turning the tables – if done subtly and not to the point of obsessive, weirdly stalkerish behavior (people – men and women – aren’t always good at this) – is almost 100% effective. Especially for a skilled negotiator who is willing to walk away with a sincere smile and an acquiescent little tilt of the head to signal regretful defeat. It’s human psychology at its most basic.

      Where I fell a little short, 31+ years ago, is in the “willing to walk away” department. I just landed my prize and kept him. 🙂 (And he’s GENTLEMAN enough to tell you HE landed the prize. Either way, I still feel like I won.)
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      1. I should add that I was in it for the long game from the start – we dated for two years before we married. 🙂 It would have been strange, indeed, if either of us had any doubts by our wedding day.
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    2. You had some people who could at least tell you! Since I did not have access to such women or men, may be I did not even know if and when someone tried to seduce me! Well within the realms of possibility.

  5. I’ve never had the temptation and wouldn’t know what to do about it if it happened. However, I know several men who did — and acted on the temptation — after they moved into executive positions. At least 2 got caught at work and lost their jobs! (They are now executives in other companies in the same field)
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        1. No, I am not talking about abuse of power. I am talking about a subordinate woman employee seducing the boss for reasons other than romance.

  6. to me it’s intriguing…almost like going to a fancy dress party in gear that no one recognises you – so you get up to all kinds of flirting; doing things that your true self would never do – knowing that tomorrow you could a/ have a hangover b/find yourself in some elses bed c/ just be at home on your own or d/ something else maybe arrested for disorderly behaviour or e/ no memory other than smeared lipstick and no shoes!

  8. I would not call that woman a seduction addict, In my book she had an addiction for sexual gratification, HER OWN, and to hell with all the men round her. Ramana you would not want to know a female like that who would take and run!

    As to your question ‘will I still be interested in being seduced?’ Of couse you will, with a definition of: attracts or charms! A toddler in the park will seduce you with a wide eyed smile, Even Chuki the dog can seduce you into playing with her.

    I agree with Rule #34!
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    1. YES!! I see you and I have the same idea about what seduction is. 🙂 I also read that as if the author was maybe more of a destructive force looking to prove she could land any man in bed – and what she was addicted to was the adrenaline rush and the drama of conflict. That’s too easy. It’s also crazy-making for all involved.

      Good seduction leaves them wanting more – not running out to get a restraining order.
      Holly J recently posted..Boundaries: Trust and Privacy

    3. Grannymar — brilliant! Dogs do it all the time with those soulful eyes. I love dogs but don’t want one because I wouldn’t be able to resist those eyes begging for a walk.
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