Wildest Fantasy – II

Shackman the incredible friend with a prodigious memory commented on my earlier post My Wildest Fantasy “I wonder where she is……” and gave a link to an amazing song. Do turn on the speakers and listen to it.

Here are the lyrics.

“Your Wildest Dreams”

Once upon a time
Once when you were mine
I remember skies
Reflected in your eyes
I wonder where you are
I wonder if you
Think about me
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

Once the world was new
Our bodies felt the morning dew
That greets the brand new day
We couldn’t tear ourselves away
I wonder if you care
I wonder if you still remember
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

And when the music plays
And when the words are
Touched with sorrow
When the music plays
I hear the sound
I had to follow
Once upon a time
Once beneath the stars
The universe was ours
Love was all we knew
And all I knew was you
I wonder if you know
I wonder if you think about it
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams

And when the music plays
And when the words are
Touched with sorrow
When the music plays
And when the music plays
I hear the sound
I had to follow
Once upon a time

Once upon a time
Once when you were mine
I remember skies
Mirrored in your eyes
I wonder where you are
I wonder if you
Think about me
Once upon a time
In your wildest dreams
In your wildest dreams
In your wildest dreams

Shackman, you are the man. Thank you.

Gratitude List – November 5, 2011.

On Saturday, a client who was quite annoyed with some poor customer service in the past returned to our fold. I was very pleased that he had accepted my apologies and reconsidered his decision to move to competition. We also welcomed a house guest who sought shelter after a big row with her family. Took me back to 1963 when I too had to do something like that and did not have a place to park myself for a night. I spent the night on the beach in Chennai and moved into a hotel the next day. That brought back a lot of other memories and it was time well spent reminiscing. I have come a long way since then!

Saturday also had Ranjan’s friend Harsh who I used to meet regularly at our park on walks, drop in with some Diwali goodies to enquire about my progress. It was nice to talk to him for over an hour.

Sunday had us entertaining three friends in the morning and, in the evening, a charming young lady who has just adopted me. All four contributed to our cache of Diwali goodies, and who am I to complain? Sunday also saw me getting a phone call from Sandeep who has come to India for a short visit and is scheduled to visit us on Tuesday.

Monday was quiet and I was able to catch up with some reading and filing work. I was also taught a lesson in patience in tracing a delayed pension payment of my father’s. It was a typical merry go round that one experiences with the Public Sector over here.

Tuesday started off badly with my father feeling very feeble and wanting a doctor to come. By the time we could organise that, he recovered and decided that he will not require medical attention. I suspect that he simply wanted a B-12 injection and a chance to chat with our friendly doctor. Unfortunately, the doctor is indisposed and an alternative was not acceptable to him. An unexpected bonus of this little drama was that he finally agreed to use the walker instead of a cane to walk around and so with great delight, I got a carpenter to dismantle the walker that he had converted to a mobile mini table. He is now content to use the walker the way it was meant to be. I was relieved that he will be that much less prone to a fall.

My brother Arvind called just to shoot the breeze and it was nice chatting with him for a while. I really had a great time after many years when he was here last month catching up with all old news and updating other developments and I miss him often now that he has gone back to Chennai.

I was also able to sort out the pension problem and the day was crowned with a treat from Manjri who brought some great sandwiches and natural ice-cream.

Wednesday started off with a big bang. My journalist friend has just been made editor of a leading newspaper of India and I was delighted. He too was when I called him up and congratulated him. A very well deserved promotion.

Wednesday also saw Sandeep coming over in the evening to cheer me up. It is nice to see him back in India and before he goes back he and Deepali will come over a few times. Both are great uplifters of my spirit.

Thursday had two of my favourite couples drop in. Sandeep and Deepali in the morning to share with me all their adventures in the UK the past many months and to invite me there to their new home in Sheffield. They will shift when they return by the end of this month and all going well, Ranjan suggested that I go over next summer while he takes charge at home here.

In the evening Mazo and Norbert another couple who played a major role in in our lives over 12 years ago and who have stayed friends since then, came over with a cheese cake that the former had baked to put some “pep” in me as she said. They spent over a couple of hours and there was a great deal of laughter and friendly ribbing.

I was greeted with a new flower from the same Indian Mock Strawberry that I had written about in September. The sturdy plant has clung on and survived and surprised me with a lovely bloom early on Friday morning. Made the morning cuppa all the more enjoyable.

Friday late evening had my young friend Praveen from Mumbai on a long chat on the phone on esoteric subjects which exposed me to the uncertainties of the younger generation of today. I hope that he benefited from the discussion as much as I did.

Gratitude.

I write a post every Saturday listing the things that I was grateful for during the preceding week. In that I write about all the little things that make life worthwhile and enjoyable.

It occurs to me that while these things are certainly important and worthy of attention and gratitude there are some big things in my life which need recognition too. This was forcibly brought to my notice by a good friend who inadvertently insisted that I ensure that there is always someone at home to be of help to me in my present disabled condition. This caution was sounded because my 94 year old father, not very stable on his feet, lives with me and I cannot afford to have him fall and hurt himself, as I am in no condition to go to his help.

That forcibly brought to my attention that I am indeed blessed to have my son living with me who is never too far away physically and always available on the mobile phone. Currently, I have a house guest also staying with us who can be of great help too. I am blessed to have excellent friends for neighbours who are always ready to help and they too are just a phone call away.

While it is true that my current convalescence is frustrating, I am at least rid of the major problem of the loose prostheses which was posing a greater danger for my mobility before surgery. I was also blessed indeed to have been financially in a position to undergo the expenses on the surgery and follow up requirements and as I write this, continue to be so.

During and post surgery I was and am able to draw on the physical and moral support of my family and many friends. Many blog friends have prayed and sent me good wishes which have bolstered my morale. Some have been extraordinarily generous with their humorous mails and phone calls which cheered me up greatly. These too deserve my gratitude.

All in all, I am in a very fortunate situation compared to many others who have to fend for themselves to the best of their individual capacities. To those, I send my sincere gratitude and best wishes and offer of whatever help that I can extend given my limitations of health and location.

Gratitude List – October 29, 2011.

Saturday was very exciting for me. I was able to double the number of repeats for each exercise in my physiotherapy routine. A definite sign of improving physical capability.

Sunday is usually very quiet, but some of my clients work on Sundays as we have staggered weekly holidays in the Western part of India. Two of my clients who had gone away from me during my stay at the hospital for cheaper substitutes, came back and have placed orders – even at higher than the last quoted prices!

Monday, one more great day for some additional business. Unfortunately, we have the rest of the week in various stages of inactivity in India due to the Diwali festival, so the billings will have to wait till the end of the week, but the clients understand and that is good enough for me.

Monday also saw one of my old friends, who had been away for long from Pune, come to visit and share some tales of his wanderings. To add spice to his visit, he had, as is the custom during Diwali days, brought some goodies which are always welcome!

I was also able to get a plumber to postpone his Diwali celebrations by a day to come and fix some badly needed problems and more than I, my father was delighted with the work done.

Tuesday was quiet. Since I would need to do the kitchen work in the mornings from Wednesday, I had a trial run while Mangal hung around. All went well and I was quite satisfied with my ability to do everything hobbling around on foot, supported by a walker.

Wednesday, Day One of total independence. Made the morning tea and breakfast without mishap and felt very pleased with myself. Was also able to organise the dinner routine to round off a perfect day. A nephew who had been out of touch came online chat on FB when I made one of my rare visits to it and it was nice to chat with him for a while. He has promised to bring his three month old son and his lovely wife over to Pune to check on my progress. I look forward to it.

Wednesday being Diwali, many visitors with goodies lit up our home and our appetites. Of particular note was the newly married couple from upstairs who were celebrating their first Diwali and it was a treat to see them in their finery and glowing. I also received a phone call from a friend from the local care givers circle to wish me a happy Diwali. She cheered me up no end with her chat. She has got a major responsibility despite which she bubbles with enthusiasm and that never fails to cheer me up and I look at my own situation differently.

I got a long awaited phone call on Thursday. My adopted son, or rather the young man who considers me to be his surrogate father, called after four months of silence. He had been under a lot of strain and was not willing to talk to me as he had no answers for some of the questions that I always asked. He is now well on his way out of the troubles that he had got himself into and called, using Diwali as an excuse and to inform me of the progress he has made. I was relieved apart from being very happy for him.

I also experimented being without an analgesic with some success but had to take one before bed time. I lasted the day without it though!

Back to two analgesic doses as advised by the doctor and feeling much better on Friday. Otherwise an uneventful day.

Gratitude List – October 22, 2011

I have decided to rename my weekly recap to “Gratitude List” with a date as, this was the original purpose of the posts. I shall post this every Saturday.

Right on top of the list is that I am able now to resume normal blogging activities. I even posted my LBC post yesterday and have left comments on all the blogs that I regularly visit.

Last Saturday I took my first unassisted shower. Before that, Ranjan kept a careful eye on my to see that I can navigate the bathroom, the shower enclave and do not slip. That was, for me a highly liberating experience. Saturday also saw Zainab and Homiyar visit which was highly motivating for me as the latter is a seasoned physiotherapist who gave me some invaluable advise for free!

From last Sunday, I have been able to carry out all my exercises without any assistance. This means that my muscles are now strong enough to do so without some support which used to be given to me by Ranjan. This was possible thanks to a couple of tips that Homiyar had given on Saturday.

Monday saw my sister arriving from Chennai to spend three days with me. She brought a lot of goodies for me and our father and the latter was thrilled. Unfortunately, I have to stay away from at least some of them lest I put on weight which is strictly taboo for now for me. Monday also saw our good friend Sanjay landing up to cheer me up which was very nice of him considering his very many preoccupations.

Tuesday and Wednesday saw Padmini and Shanta go out shopping and getting some badly needed replenishments for me.

Wednesday saw Padmini, Shanta and Arvind depart for Chennai. Shanta and Arvind deserve all my gratitude for having carried a big burden during my surgery and immediate post op recovery. That they and Padmini were able to wind up that great time together was a bonus. I am also grateful that they felt that I am fit enough to be left to fend for myself.

Wednesday also saw the new domestic arrangements come into effect with Mangal spending nights with us to help me navigate the morning tea/coffee/breakfast routine.

Thursday saw me making a determined effort to get back to spending as much time at the computer as I was doing pre op. I was able to.

Friday had me write my first post op LBC post and also leave comments on all the blogs that I visit regularly.

All in all, a satisfactory week and much to be grateful for. The only negative is the departure of the Chennai gang which has left me with the empty nest syndrom.