Commitment. 2 on 1 #3

“By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
~ Socrates

When my late wife and I decided to get married to each other, her friends and family thought that I was nuts to marry her.  My friends and family on the other hand, thought that she was nuts to marry me. We went ahead nevertheless,  and both of us were quite happy but eventually became philosophers anyway.

That was the single biggest commitment that I ever made in my life.

“The opposite of opportunism in human relations is loyalty; a noble sentiment – but one that needs to be invested in the right places, that is, in human relations and moral commitments.”
~ Nassim Nicholas Taleb.

The two other commitments that followed much later, to become a vegetarian in 1998 and to become a teetotaller in 1999 were of less significance but commitments nevertheless made to my late mother and to my God Daughter In Love respectively. Both also helped in my passage to becoming a philosopher!

Before some of you ask me, let me clarify. I am not a philosopher in the classic sense but am one in the sense that I am learning to be one.

“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose – and commit myself to – what is best for me.”

~ Paulo Coelho,The Zahir

I flatter myself that I am free.

I picked this week’s topic and so Shackman will choose next week’s. Be sure to check Shackman’s take on this week’s topic.

14 thoughts on “Commitment. 2 on 1 #3”

  1. Hi Ramana you are great philosopher not only was a most efficient senior marketing executive. I am lucky you know me

    1. You don’t have to commit to vegetarianism. My mother was orthodox and when I started my path on spiritualism was puzzled that I continued to eat meat etc. Among Hindus of our community, that is simply not on. She thought that it would help me in my pursuit. Since it meant so much for her, I agreed to quit.

  2. sometimes I believe a commitment can also be a solution – that that may everlasting or somehow give you the time to unravel and sort out something that is troubling or not troubling…
    it may end up a commitment that continues forever or it might have a shifting stance it just because of a circumstance.
    that is not to say that your or anyone elses commitment it not worthwhile, especially if it makes your life better.\
    I am certainly “free” to do more or less what I like…

    1. Cathy, that is a brilliant observation. Now that you mention it, the three commitments that I made about which I have posted, were all solutions too! Quite how they were is subject matter for another blog post. Thank you.

  3. I would have thought that if you have a bad wife you’ll become a stoic rather than a philosopher. Either that or you’ll become a divorcee.

    My biggest commitment is to Jenny, and I’ve never had any reason to regret it. Or to become a stoic. My other big commitment is to being a decent human being who treats other people with respect. I think I’ve managed it fairly well so far.
    nick recently posted..Little luxuries

    1. Nick, since you are such an avid reader, let me point you to Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s “Antifragile” in which he talks about the Stoics and Seneca in particular. A completely new way of looking at Stoicism.

  4. Try again to try to get the link correct:

    “Commitment and practice.” One of my mottoes.

    As you know, I studied philosophy when I was in high school and in the process of creating one that worked for me. One that would give me a solid foundation as I went through life. I was lucky to do it so young.
    Cheerful Monk recently posted..No Lassie Here

    1. That post dating back to ten years ago is a very interesting one Monk. Thank you. You have of course read about my schooling and the grounding that I had in my post a couple of Fridays ago. Vastly different from your own experience but, as you often say, each of us has to find our own way.

    2. I drifted off to your link, and then started looking at the comments, many of the people had (not many found now) blogs…I wonder where those people have gone? One “noor” hadn’t update since Dec 2016; the others “no page found…”

      So then I thought I would look at my own archives, starting with the very beginning, and there is rummuser making a comment and then one…a few months later CM 🙂

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