The topic for this week’s 2 on 1 Friday blog post when Shackman and I post on the same topic came to me as a flash of inspiration when I sought Shackman’s forgiveness for delaying the suggestion. I hope that he has. You can indeed check out if he has at his blog.
Having got that little bit of confession off my mind, let me revert to the quote that I have included above. I think that it is a well thought out suggestion that reflects the truth about forgiving more than any other platitudes that one can come across.
I personally do not believe that human beings are capable of forgiving harm done to them. In my case, I have not forgiven anybody who has caused me harm, though I have moved on and in some cases, even forgotten the incidents unless they come up as reminders when something triggers those memories. I think that all of us are like that but, since it is supposed to be divine to forgive, we pretend to ourselves more than to others that we have forgiven. The best that we do, I think is that we drop that person from our lives and move on finding our pleasures and company elsewhere.
I am more inclined to trust this quote.
Well said and I would have to agree with your philosophy.
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Thank you.
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canine forgiveness comes from living in the NOW. they forget and thus seem to forgive. that’s how I see it anyway.
I am trying to live always in the present and not through my Ego. the ego is not happy to be ignored. but it’s the only way of getting rid of it! 😀
You can say that again. That is why I find it difficult to believe that people can forgive.
You are correct – we have the same core principle at the center of our reponses. I gave little or no thought to the notion that we cannot forgive someone who has harmed us. That will require a bit more pondering.
Thank you Shackman. May be, we should attempt this topic again after some reflection.
All fine and dandy for those who are distant but sometimes we have to live with those who have seriously damaged us. Particularly women, I find. “Understanding” has helped me a lot in deal with familial abuse. A long process but worth it.
But damage does not get healed. It can be a scab that gets knocked off now and again.
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I do think forgiveness is mostly for yourself, to not carry the burden of anger or hurt with you. But forgetting? Nope.
Thank you. Very well said indeed.
Beautiful thoughts, forgiving is a quality of person and define what kind of person you are. Other then this everyone deserves one chance to change his perception.