Fulfillment And Unfulfillment.

“No one achieves complete success in life but, even partial fulfilment is attained by but, a few. Unfulfilment is the normal condition of man.” ~ Irawati Karve.

This post has been inspired by Ekoshapu’s post on Reunion. Since I attend reunions regularly, what the poem says resonates with me.

The heartthrob of the school,

is a man grim and somber.

That lanky little girl,

is now a weightlifter.

The topper of the class,

is a happy homemaker.

Back bencher of the lot,

is an entrepreneur.

The flamboyant fashionista,

became a dreaded lawyer.

Oft ignored average Joe,

turned a well known writer.

The one who failed math paper,

is a fashion designer,

and one who often got to stand outside the class,

is a respected army officer.

The reunion taught me how,

people come with many layers,

and told me why we should,

never judge a book by its cover…

Let’s remember this every time we step into our classes;

Each child is a potential success story!! Lets help them write it

On reflecting on the topic, it also occurred to me that in these reunions, one rarely comes across someone talking about how s/he has failed whereas irrespective of whether one came from a background of privilege and money or the absence of it, the successes inevitably talked about it and maintained that they are self made successes. As a corollary, I suppose that the failures are also self made failures but, they are unwilling to admit it. They will blame everything possible other than themselves for their failures. Usually, the government, competition or often, bankers.

To reinforce this trend of thought, I have recently had to interact with two young friends of both categories and I dug up the Nightingale quote for the latter. He was quite stunned that it had not occurred to him and we spent quite a long time discussing how things could have been different had he done somethings differently or not done somethings at all. Since he is quite a determined sort, he has perhaps understood the situation and will try again.

To the former, it was easier to point out the advantages that he had to start with before he became an entrepreneur to deflate his ego a bit and give some credit to his parents and background. Subsequently, his father rang me up to thank me for doing that! I must have done something right for the news to reach the father!

Which brings me to the second quote on unfulfilment being the norm for most of us.  I think that Irawati Karve has hit the nail on the head but, am willing to be corrected by any of my reader/s who may think otherwise.

7 thoughts on “Fulfillment And Unfulfillment.”

  1. No I don’t agree that unfulfilment is the normal condition of man. That would be a very sad state of affairs. I think we’re all partly fulfilled, partly unfulfilled. I’m sure we’ve all achieved satisfying and interesting and skilful things in our life, even if they don’t seem very spectacular ones. Perhaps we have become excellent cooks or accountants or child-minders or wood-turners. There has to be something!

  2. Always being the optimist, I am perhaps unfulfilled but don’t see it that way. The cup is always half full to me.
    One thing that was great at my 60-year high school reunion was that even those were on the “success” track at the 30th (the only other one I attended) were now representing themselves rather than their accomplishments. There was sadness for those who had lost loved ones and joy for those who had fa circle of care around them.
    Who are we but ourselves anyway – but I fail to see that as self-made. So many had so much to do with it…
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    1. The message is in taking responsibility for one’s condition in life. If one can call himself a self made person when he is successful, surely he should say that he is that when he is a failure as well.

  3. I suppose we have all had ups/downs with life…I know I often to do not look at the great things…until someone mentions “what about xyz? I don’t think there is anything I could personally change, but I would have loved not to have inherited the genetic problems with my feet and hands. The hands are more noticeable as I’ve got my feet in the right shoes nowadays…

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