Growing Up Vs Growing Old.


Shackman’s suggestion for the weekly Friday LBC post is a favourite topic among some people who are growing old physically but who claim that they are not growing up.  I envy them.  I wish that I could have stayed at my youth mentally.

Surely such talk or shall we say, wishful thinking is just that.  One cannot really stop growing up any more than stop growing old.  Degrees of such growth can be subject to discussion or observation, but we cannot completely stop either process.

We can certainly use the phrase as a whole with some tweakings for different contexts for humour but in reality, I am afraid that at least in my opinion, both processes are unstoppable.


49 thoughts on “Growing Up Vs Growing Old.”

  1. Wow, Ramana, who rained on your parade? Hope you are ok. There is a study, quoted continutally everywhere you read at the moment, that reaction to pain and problems can be physically re-programmed by facing fears in a secure environment, seeing that they are not as bad as you thought, then practicing placing a positive thought over each negative one until a positive thought process is established, a form of neural reprogramming, and finally adding many more positive reactions, until so to speak there is no room for the negative. (My appologies in advance to anyone working medically or researching in the field. ) My personal belief is that you have to recognize reality, but don’t always have to take part. Wishing you a long and happy second childhood.
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    1. I am Okay Lin. And nobody has rained on my parade. After reading all the comments, I have to conclude that perhaps I have not explained my position clearly. Growing up does not necessarily have to mean that one grows up to be a somber old bandicoot. One can grow up to be as cheerful as a teenager or not as the situation demands. My take is that one has to accept both developments for whatever they are worth.

  2. I disagree – growing up can and even should be somewhat controlled. It is how we respond to life’s events that determines how and how much we grow up. know several old fogies who exhibit degrees of immaturity stunning for people of their age (at least in my opinion)

    1. I think that I have not stressed on reactions to events as they unfold in the process of aging. This does not mean that when serious things happen one acts immaturely.

  3. It depends on how you define growing up. If not growing up is defined as maintaining a childlike sense of wonder, then I vote Tammy as most successful.

    1. oh good grief charlie brown!
      i’m thinking it might just be a latent blooming. LOLOL!
      i don’t think much about being grown up actually.
      i’m just trying hard lately to realize when my ego is talking or when i am.
      my ego thinks growing up is a big deal. and i don’t. LOL.

      1. An attitude of carefreeness certainly helps in maintaining one’s mental health Tammy. But, what I mean to say is that is possible in all ages and need not reflect badly on someone who is not like that at any stage in life.

    2. Exactly. I think that my definition is somewhat different to what is popular thanks to statements like “Growing old is compulsory, growing up is optional.”

  4. I agree, Ramana. Growing up goes hand in hand with getting older. Ask a twenty four year old. Where once a child has little responsibility the adult does.

    I do believe that part of the crux is that people put a negative connotation on “growing up”. One I don’t get. Worse, I don’t actually like the coquettish way in which some older people claim that they never grew up. Bull to that. And if they are right and they didn’t, then, well, … commiserations. One can maintain a child’s wonderment at the world whilst not shunning growing up. In fact, if you look in the dictionary, one of the definitions of “to grow up” is to develop. Now. who wouldn’t wish to “develop”?

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    1. Wow, thanks Ursula. Maintaining a child’s wonderment, so very well put, throughout one’s life has nothing to do with growing up is all that I maintain. It is one’s attitude to life, that is all.

      1. Creativity is the talent and ability to use all the tools you have gathered in your experiences in life. it is not, in my opinion, childish wonder, but rather the serious recognition and the admiration of all that is around us, both God-given, and processed by us in our lives, to create a world that gives back our awe of the creation. this recognition of something much higher than us, as a path to where we are supposed to be, is to me much much more important than childish wonder. Or growing old. Or up. Hermann Hesse didn’t use the phrase “the laughter of the immortals” lightly. Ps for the non-religious among us, Hesse was not only a pietist, he was also a serious follower of Jung. Hook your goals to a star, and as long as you can roller skate, do.
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  5. if growing up means being deadly serious about everything in life… and many believe that to be the case… i feel they’re missing much in life that makes it worth the living.
    if growing up is learning to be kind and to try to understand all people regardless of their place in life and our own lives … then i hope i am very grown up.
    i suppose it’s all in the semantics.
    the older i get the more humorous i find human nature. except when it’s dark.
    then it’s sad indeed.

      1. and it’s SO interesting to me!
        the marine is forever telling me to choose my words carefully.
        that people “hear” and put their own connotations on different words.
        and just from reading all these fascinating comments…
        it’s proof that what you say is not always understood in the way you meant to say it. 🙂
        wonderful post rummy. very stimulating conversation!

  6. I don’t understand either statement – growing up and growing old – they don’t seem connected to me…

    As soon as one can make coherent sentences, you are on the first step of the ladder and already you are “growing up” if you can even reach that first step.

    I can think of a number of teens – for one of a reason, act like that are going on 44 – with a tone of voice to go with it “I’m old enough to do what I like” (I’ve one such teen next door…)

    When people ask me the serious question “how are old you?” I nearly always say “over the age of consent” 🙂

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