I hope that you enjoy reading this post on the weekly Friday Loose Bloggers Consortium where eleven of us write on the same topic. Today’s topic has been chosen by The Old Fossil. The ten other bloggers who write regularly are, in alphabetical order, Delirious, gaelikaa, Grannymar, Maxi, Maria SF, Padmum, Paul, Rohit,Shackman, The Old Fossil and Will. Do drop in on their blogs and see what their take is on this week’s topic. Since some of them may post late, do give some allowance for that too!


To start off, I rather enjoyed changing the spelling of the title to this post to establish that I am an anglophile not to be intimidated by the American propensity to simplify spelling. With no apologies to The Old Fossil, let me now proceed.

Sometimes my idea of what is funny is not quite what the other person thinks it is. Here is an example. Tammy in her comment on my post The Zamindar said this. “My dad died of a heart attack at 45. And he was trim and fit in every way. Every way but his arteries I guess. I think you may live to 95 and still look young as a cowboy and still be sharing bits of wisdom and folly! Wonderful!”

I hereby officially respond by quoting a very important person.

“If somebody has a bad heart, they can plug this jack in at night as they go to bed and it will monitor their heart throughout the night. And the next morning, when they wake up dead, there’ll be a record.”
~ Mark S. Fowler, FCC Chairman.

My siblings and I are blessed to have inherited one great characteristic from our mother, a sense of humour. If you really want to see a live sitcom, you must be present when the four of us are together. Our late mother survived for as long as she did despite a dysfunctional marriage because she could draw from her reserve of humour to see the funny side of things and life and all of us are grateful for that.

We grew up reading comics, they were called that because it was the genre for comedy to start with, and magazines with humourous stories in them and all of us eventually graduated to P G Wodehouse and other writers of his ilk. The first things we read in newspapers and magazines were the funnies and at least one of us developed enough talent to become a living clown as well.

All of us are known for our ready wit and laughter and that has enabled us to live beyond the proverbial three score relatively unaffected by the vicissitudes of life that everyone goes through.

Sometimes, only sometimes though, my propensity for flippancy results in a spoiled relationship. This usually happens when the other person lacks a sense of humour and that is one lesson, I do not seem to be able to learn despite those experiences. I simply am unable to understand how anyone can be without a sense of humour. My shortcoming, but I am now too old and set in my ways to bother and take corrective action. I would rather continue in my flippant ways. I am convinced that I am thriving in my life now.

My son has this obituary announcement in his mind when I finally go to join the cricket team up there waiting for another opening bowler. ” He laughed his way to his death.”

Tammy, whether it will be when I am 95 or before or after, will be decided by the captain of that team. And my apologies for editing your comment with capital letters.

28 thoughts on “Humour.”

  1. I agree, a sense of humor is invaluable. It certainly helped me the past day or so when I kept having trouble with my hosting service. For starters, they don’t guarantee to back up our data regularly, so we’re supposed to do it ourselves. But they don’t let us back up anything except what they’ve already backed up, and we can’t restore anything from the downloads we’ve made to our computers. Say what??

    They’ve been great for the past 6 years, so I’m guessing they’re having a bit of a crisis right now. Usually tech support answers right away, but not this week. We’ll just have to see if this is a fluke or the new norm. In the meantime it’s too funny not to laugh.
    Cheerful Monk recently posted..No Complaints

  2. Often when we feel someone lacks a sense of humor, it’s because their sense of humor is different than ours. I had a boyfriend once who would say things and laugh that just seemed silly to me. And I often had to explain my jokes to him. All that sad, being able to laugh at things is a blessing – I find so much in this world funny.

    (A historical aside: spelling in the English language didn’t start becoming standardized until around 1800, after America was well established. The or versus our thing isn’t just about simplifying spelling. The “or” ending is truer to the Latin root and was the one originally used in England, the “our” ending was a more recent change (after the Norman conquest) to make the words more French.)
    Secret Agent Woman recently posted..Not just “No,” but “Oh sweet Jesus NO.”

  3. Humor is an important part of life and it comes in all shapes and sizes. I agree with the comment the other person had a different sense of humor though – not that he/she was totally lacking in that area. One person’s humor can easily be another’s outrage. In some instamnces that can indeed be a relationship changer. Oh well.
    shackman recently posted..LBC topic – Humor

  4. I do agree with both WWW and Shackman: HumoUr is indeed personal. What is one person’s chuckle is another’s shoulder shrug.

    There is someone on these waves who frequently prides herself on her humoUr which irritates the hell out of me. Not because of her brand of humoUr (that too – though she sometimes does excel herself) but because I can’t stand it when people preen themselves on their. well, sense of humoUr. And at times, no denying, adversity needs to be faced head on. HumoUr having no place in the room.

    In other words: We may amuse ourselves, and I frequently do with no one else laughing. And that’s ok. I don’t take it personal. And there is the type of humoUr being rammed down my throat, demanded by others that I bloody damn well appreciate it. The latter marking the pub bore. Not that I do find pub bores boring. I find all of mankind utterly fascinating. I mean it.

    Then there are cultural differences …

    Humoring you, Ramana, pub bore greetings,
    Ursula recently posted..Illusion

    1. There is one element that unfortunately I did not cover in my post. When the communication is face to face, the body language and the facial expression usually conveys the intent of the communicator. Even in telephone conversations this works.

  5. Completely forgot, quick addendum: The only funny bone I know is the one in your elbow which when caught at the wrong angle makes one wince and hop around on one foot.

    However, back bone is vital. Who wants to crawl around in the gutter finding a morsel of humoUr?

    A wishbone, as far as I am aware, only to be found in a roast chicken carcass.

    Ursula recently posted..Illusion

    1. To carry on where I left off at the previous comment, if I say “Whatever” in writing the intent will be lost on you and you could easily take offense. I would have not meant that to happen at all, but I think that the point is made.

  6. I
    capital letters just for you dearest rummy. a great measure of respect!
    BA HAHA HAHA !!!
    i would have liked your mother very much.
    i always tell young married couples just starting out . . .
    “remember. laughter is the magic glue.”
    snoopy hugs dear cowboy.
    tammyj recently posted..innocent revenge

  7. I do identify with your comment about a tendency to flippancy. I also lapse into flippancy on occasion and get the other person’s back up because they simply don’t accept that a situation can be humorous at the same time as it’s serious. They just think I’m being disrespectful and insensitive. It’s a clash of attitudes that isn’t easily remedied.
    nick recently posted..Tucked away

    1. Forgive me, Nick, but humour and flippancy are not the same. Flippancy shows disregard, even disrespect, and rarely goes down well. Mainly because it usually borders on the tactless. I also can’t help feeling that flippancy is a way of deflecting.
      Flippancy is crude, whilst humour is gentle, softening the edges of life rather than ridiculing them.

      Ursula recently posted..Illusion

      1. I guess you’re right, flippancy is “not showing a serious or respectful attitude”, which might or might not include humour. Still the case though that I make what are considered flippant remarks when to my mind I’m only being a bit down-to-earth or informal.
        nick recently posted..Tucked away

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