Memory Trigger 3. The Ring.


GP who featured in my post Memory Trigger 2, had come over to our place to exchange Diwali greetings a few days ago. She was accompanied by her husband, two children, her father and her mother in law. A full house and we had a grand time talking about the blog post, diwali, the children’s schooling etc. It was also her son Shasa’s birthday and it was quite a noisy time that we all had for a few hours.

During all the chatter, GP noticed that I was wearing a ring with a gun metal stone and since her son was studying about birthstones asked him to try and find out from me as to why I wear the ring. And that triggered off another journey down memory lane.

No, I do not wear the ring for any beneficial effect that it’s stone may bring to me. Since my sun sign is Cancer, I am told that I should wear emerald, moonstone, pearl, or ruby. In addition to the Zodiac stones, moonstone is listed as the Planetary stone for Cancer and sapphire as the Talismanic Stone. I just found out that by googling for my birthstone!

There however is a story behind the ring which I shared with Shasa and all the others assembled at the Diwali gathering.

My readers would recollect that my late wife Urmeela was the sister of two of my close friends. Urmeela’s elder sister Promeela was also a friend who subsequently became my sister in law. I had known Urmeela and Promeela for eight years before our marriage. Promeela could not attend the wedding as she was away in Nigeria at that time. Things being what they were then, she could not come down to India till nine years after our marriage. When she did, she organised a grand wedding anniversary do at their place in Hyderabad to which Urmeela, Ranjan and I had driven down from Bombay. Please click on the following image to get a larger resolution of a photograph taken on that occasion which was exactly 39 years ago today. Yes, this post is being written on our wedding anniversary day which is special for a couple of other reasons too within the family with another wedding anniversary and a birthday on the same day.

That photograph incidentally is from the album about which I had written in my post Memory Trigger 1. It is only one of many that were taken that evening but the only one that shows Urmeela, me, Promeela and my mother in law, all in one.  You can see Promeela standing second from right. Ranjan sitting between Urmeela and me, was unhappy being called away for the photo op from playing with his cousins in the courtyard.  Every person in the photograph brings back memories and sadly except four including me and Ranjan, none are alive today.

At that party, Promeela, being one with a great sense of humour and a wit, characterestically asked me in the presence of her brothers if I had received any dowry from the family and on being told that the answer was ‘no’, she whipped out a gift parcel and this ring was the gift inside. I wear it proudly as the dowry that I received for marrying Urmeela.  Let us not go into what Urmeela and Ranjan received on that occasion!

12 thoughts on “Memory Trigger 3. The Ring.”

  1. so beautifully articulated Ramana–
    I loved each and every word that you have written with so much depth and love for Tutu didi–
    thru the air waves could feel your love and affection for her and the family –
    Such a beautiful photograph — it was so nice to see shaw aunty tunu didi jithen my uncle and aunt and sudhi .. what memories keep flooding by
    thank you so much for sharing this
    God bless

  2. love little grumpy ranjan with a band aid on his knee!
    adults just don’t get it.
    but now i’m sure he treasures this picture of his family. 🙂
    you don’t change rummy. i could find you anywhere!
    and it’s lovely to see urmeela in earlier healthy years. she’s beautiful.
    i’m loving this memory series. thank you dear friend.
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  3. Hi Rummy,

    First of all, Urmeela was gorgeous (peace be upon her soul).
    Second, you haven’t changed much: you remained quite handsome. Third, Ranjan was so very cute.

    I’d say that Urmeela’s love was the best dowry you could get but the ring is beautiful too. And your SIL was ever so kind to throw you guys that party. So, whose wedding anniversary is coming up: your son’s?

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  4. the wearing of that ring, to many may not speak anything to the world, but it may have been something you “just wear” – not necessarily as a daily memory, until the trigger of where it came from…gives up it’s history.

    I think of some of the things I wear, including my single earring – I have a variety and some have a history that reflects a time in my life.

    I used to wear the pair (one in each ear) but at some point, I lost one! I then made an effort to make a statement as such, and in the R-ear I have only a “sleeper ring”…and I wear a variety of earrings depending on what I insert.

  5. Urmeela was very pretty! and Ranjan reminds me very much of several young boys in my own family who have appeared grumpy in many photos 🙂

    Gotta love a grumpy little boy

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