It is the silly season in India. A crucial election is to take place in the next three days and there has been hectic canvassing, forecasting, hoping and what not besides the usual exchange of ideas between persons either of the same persuasion or from opposite camps.

One of my friends of the same ideology,  and I were discussing the probabilities when he came up with a great insight. He said that some people will vote for NOTA and this would enable some candidates to win as these votes would swing against their candidates as they would not have got them anyway. NOTA stands for None Of The Above.  This is an option that our ballot papers have to express our disgust with the candidates!

While explaining he mentioned some names of our mutual friends who are not for the main contestant but who are not for the opposition either. In other words they are simply against everything! Totally negative about everything!  They are not FOR anything.  They don’t have solutions for the problems that they keep highlighting.

On reflection I found great insight in this statement and assessment from my friend and I set about listing all the names that I could think of who are like that. I was surprised that there were so many among my friends who are like that.

My relationships with them have been cordial but I wonder if I should continue being friends with them! What do you think?

16 thoughts on “NOTA.”

  1. They don’t sound like real friends but more like acquaintances – none the less, there are very few single issues that would cause me to dissolve a friendship. In my case, for example, I simply ignore politics as a discussion point for associates of mine who profess to be Trump supporters. If they cannot handle a different opinion than their own, so be it.

    1. You are right. I should have called them acquaintances. In India, we simply cannot avoid politics. The atmosphere is permeated with it. Families have divisions within because of differing ideologies and lifelong alienations are quite common. In my case, I suppose that it is a matter of being available for people more than looking for deep friendships that brings these negative types into my life. I have already culled some but, some more need to be.

  2. I think it’s great that you have NOTA as a choice. I think it’s easy to ignore talking about politics, but if you and the acquaintances have nothing in common, then it could be best to gently move on.
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  3. when i was working there were people i saw everyday because i had to.
    i am not drawn to negative people. i think they are toxic. at least to my nature they are. so after i retired i no longer kept contact. we have the news for negativity if we want to take a little dose of poison every day! we don’t need friends to spread it as well! but the NOTA thing is interesting.
    in this last election i know of many people who not only lost friends over it but their own family members as well! good grief!
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  4. NOTA? Won’t get you anywhere.

    I have no notion of what constitutes “negative people”. All I know is that people come in different sizes, shapes, forms, personalities. Some are Tiggers, some are Eyeores, some are swine, and I am who I am. And Tammy is LOL.

    Diversity is what we should court and cherish. Not least, and particularly, among friends.

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    1. I suppose that the interest in diversity has what kept the relationships with these people in my life. I don’t mind them but, the point is to not let them, to you use your phrase, piss on my parade!

  5. I think this whole topic of negativity is interesting. Are people classified as negative if they don’t agree with us? Do they think the same of us?

    Do we just hang with our sycophants?

    I had a huge disagreement with a person I call a confidante and a friend today when he classified gay people as mentally ill. I had no idea he felt that way.

    Should I now drop this 30 year friendship?

    This to me is more serious than any political disagreement.

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    1. WWW, one or two or even a few areas of negativity is acceptable. I quote what I have written in my post, “In other words they are simply against everything! Totally negative about everything! They are not FOR anything. They don’t have solutions for the problems that they keep highlighting.”

  6. Our elections are designed for those who will obediently vote for the bicycle, weighing scales, chand-tara or lion. Not for educated and conceited examgoers accustomed to multiple choice questions with a NOTA option. Why would a NOTA type go to vote, by the way?#KarnatakaVerdict from twitter @swami_843

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