Retirement 2.

I had no clue that things have changed drastically since my working days when I wrote the post Retirement last week. I was in for a rude awakening earlier this morning when a fellow alumnus, Ram, 25 years younger than I am and an active marathoner, mountaineer etc wrote this on our Alumni WhatsApp page. I leave it to my readers to see how things are today in India’s corporate world.

“A few decades back, people would just begin to build a house, or plan a foreign vacation or buy a big car around the time they turned forty. This has now galloped backwards to the twenties. You are done and dusted with all these pretty early. The result: you are twiddling your thumbs at forty. It feels like sixty already. It is BORING!

There hope; at least, old people get respect. But, those who have to give that respect have disappeared. There are no servile, …grinning juniors offering to carry your bag or fetch you coffee at office. They have been replaced by headphone-secured, gum-chewing Gen Y kids whose most vital goal is to make you feel like you are 100 years old. That is when you go buy yourself a Harley, or at least, a Bullet and a leather jacket. Now, you look both old and stupid.

Seeking thrill becomes your singular objective. But, there are only so many times that you can party, or fantasize start-up ideas or go to Thailand with the “boys” ! So, what do you do at forty?

Not all become entrepreneurs or go biking in Leh. They don’t have the wife’s permission. Their sphere of influence is limited to where to buy the bhindi from, as long as she determines the quantity, size and the exact shade of green.

What do you do at forty? Other than getting drunk every weekend and threatening to quit your job to become a farmer? You already have a house, and another one on rent. You have two cars. You have a holiday time-share. You even have life insurance. And it’s not that you are going to jump to an entirely league and get yourself a yacht and a mistress. Where will you keep them?

So, basically you are stuck right here, in this very league, that is beginning to stink. You need some freshness. You want new. You wonder if you should be a foodie/food blogger. How about an amateur photographer? Or a musician. But, all of these cost money. You are at your wit’s end.

You want to run away from it all.

Wait, did someone say ‘run’?

Yes. And, that’s how the weekend marathon runner, weekend cyclist and bikers are born….!!! 😁”

15 thoughts on “Retirement 2.”

  1. Well, I only retired a few months ago, at the age of 71, so I don’t have any problems around too-early retirement! I’m still enjoying this long-awaited life of leisure and I love not having to go to work in the freezing cold. Thanks to the rich and varied tapestry of the internet, and plenty of good books, I’m not at all bored.

  2. Sorry Ramana your contact sounds like a frightful bore. His inner life is absent. A passion of some kind (self created of course) is so essential to “retirement” years. Retiring from the drudge I understand but the inner needs to be developed as we slave away to bring the bacon home. Contemplation. Books. Crafts. Anything.


  3. I started my my ‘full -time’ retirement about 15 years ago at the age of sixty- five, and I can honestly say that I have never been bored during that time. ‘Wisewebwoman’ .. “hit the nail on the head” and just beat me to it.
    Mind you, I did consider myself semi-retired for most of my ‘working life’ … 😉
    Big John recently posted..A creepy .. “Two for the price of One” .. !

    1. Hail fellow, well met! For the last part of the comment. I would go one step further and say that I was retired during my earning days and started to work only after formal retirement.

  4. I, too, agree with ‘Wisewebwoman’ — to avoid boredom (and perhaps despair) in retirement, one has to find interests and diversions.

    It helps if one starts before leaving the work force. Some people continue working because they don’y know how to do anything else. Others retire because they think they have to only to end up hating retirement.

  5. I haven’t been retired and I am behind the game because at 47 I have never had a big holiday or even bought a car! (although my husband bought many that I drove)

    Seven years of unemployment puncuated with little bursts of my own business might have been like retirement. It was deathly boring after about six years …or maybe it was less boring and more just soul suckingly hopeless

    1. You still have a long way to go before you too can write such posts with your tongue firmly in your cheek. In the meanwhile, do not lose hope. When it is all over you will look back and laugh at all these soul sucking situations with nostalgia!

  6. even with “tongue in cheek” many people do achieve what they want really early in their journey…and then do exactly what an older retired person “can do” if they wish – abandon getting up in the cold, dark, wet conditions and leisurely go about daily life – without worrying about grid-locked traffic and similar.

    I only have got the brand of “retired” because at a certain point my disability pension changed to retired pension (forget correct terminology).
    Catherine de Seton recently posted..taking a slight break…sorry

    1. Those who do achieve middle age retirement are very fortunate. As Big John pointed out, there are others like he and I who in any case were in semi retirement during our working days!

  7. LOLOL! I have nothing worthwhile to add.
    that is sort of sad in itself. but I don’t care! I enjoyed it.
    I retired in 2005 and it has taken me this long to give myself
    PERMISSION to totally enjoy it!!! rock on!
    and if he is still totally bored there are always unique tattoos and home brews
    and Hollywood stubble and all kinds of high tech gadgets to explore. 😀

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