This article explains surrogacy as “is a legal arrangement in which a woman agrees to become pregnant and bear a child for the benefit of another person who will become the kid’s parent.

I am inspired to write this post as a friend, let us call him SMV,  contacted me earlier today to share a family secret about which I was not aware.

I have his permission to write about this, as he hopes that there would be others who may benefit as he and his daughter did due to surrogacy.

His daughter, who I have known since she was a babe in arms was married when she was 21 and was unable to conceive for many years. After investigation, it was found that she had a medical condition that made it impossible to conceive in her uterus, and the couple were advised to get a child via the surrogacy route which is legal in India.

I have met the grandchild who is now a strapping young lad full of beans and good cheer and I never knew that he came into their household thanks to the surrogacy programme available in India.

So, what inspired SMV to share this information with me after all these years? He compared the surrogacy process to the Koel in my blog post Invasion, begetting its chicks via the surrogate route using the Bulbul as the surrogate mother!

Strange how one innocuous thing leads to another!

10 thoughts on “Surrogacy.”

  1. I have very mixed feelings about surrogacy, Ramana, based on the “renting” of another woman’s body – often poor and desperate. Woman used like commodities, selfishly and without thought – much like prostitution. I recognise it’s a far deeper issue than what I am writing here. I have known surrogate beneficiaries raising their children. Very few honour the birth mother who risked her life (childbirth is a dangerous and harmful business). If all women were elevated from poverty it would be a far, far different story.

    1. I do see where you are coming from WWW. I also understand the agony that my friend’s family went through before they chose this route to protect both sides’ inheritance issues. Had this option not been taken, a divorce would have been the only way out. I think that they made the right choice.

  2. Uncle Ji ,

    Reminds “Avan Aval Adhu” (transl. He, She and That) is a 1980 Indian Tamil-language film dealing with the then-groundbreaking issue of surrogate pregnancy, directed by Muktha Srinivasan and written by Visu.

    Unga time idhu famous thane ?

    1. I had to look up the movie in Wikipedia Jagan. I have not had much exposure to Tamil films since I have spent most of my life in the North in various places. The story however is intriguing for its triangle situation. I hope that nothing like that happens to my friend’s family!

  3. I can’t imagine what it’s like for a woman to give birth to a child and then immediately hand it over to someone else. Having spent 9 months creating the child must surely have led to feelings of affection and closeness which then have to be somehow quashed.

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