Shouting In Anger.

I thank Arvind for this little story.

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled ‘n asked.

‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper ‘n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other ‘n that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples ‘n said.

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’

There is a little twist to that tale in my life. My father is hard of hearing and refuses to wear hearing aids as they are uncomfortable. I therefore have to shout so that he can hear me and he inevitably concludes that I am excited and/or angry.

What should I do?

The Mystery Of My Baritone Voice.

Conrad had this to say on my post on lawyers last week – “Actually, Ramana, I could easily envision you as the Indian Perry Mason, a sonorous baritone wielding the King’s English with great dexterity, maidens in the jury box swooning, losing track of the argument – only knowing that you had to be right!

Of course, as far as I actually have experience, your voice may be like that of Pee Wee Herman! But, somehow I doubt that to be so…”


I have been noticing recently that a lot of my visitors are people with hearing aids and/or with problems with their hearing. I have been telling myself that it is because I am getting old and so are my friends and a lot of them are getting their hearing affected due to old age.

My father who has been fitted with some really sophisticated hearing aids which have been so fine tuned that the clinic say that further fine tuning is not possible, still prefers me to be around when visitors talk to him. This is enable me to convey what the visitors say as he finds it easier to hear me than the visitors.

Last Sunday, a dear friend of mine who normally visits me once in a couple of months came over and we were chatting away when he suddenly asked if it would be alright if he came over every alternate Sunday. I promptly said yes indeed it would be and that he would be most welcome. He then proceeded to tell me that he finds it easier to hear me than most of his other friends. This is when the coin dropped as a series of incidents had led me to the stage where, it made sense as to why many friends with hearing problems were frequenting my place.

I have been told that my voice is classic nicotine and whiskey conditioned husky pitch. I suppose that this is what Conrad meant when he called it the sonorous baritone!

People with hearing problems must be finding it easier to hear that particular frequency! I wonder if there is any medical study which can confirm or disprove this theory that I have come up with. Any of my readers with any knowledge about this?