Matrimony II.

I feel like kicking myself!  This is an aspect that I am aware of but did not cover in my earlier post on Matrimony.

It may not be such a big deal in the West but in India, it is expected that men get married when the time is right to the girl chosen by the parents as are the women.  No one bothers to find out if either is interested or not and many marriages flounder because of this single factor.  There is also a lot of ignorance about homosexuality which translates into further problems as can well be imagined.  I am glad that at least now these matters are being brought out in the open and discussed.  The laws needing to be changed is something that has been agreed on but with the change of government has delayed the process.  I believe that now that the Supreme Court has said it’s for the “competent legislature” to take a call our Parliament should remove Section 377 from the Statutes.


Another new whammy!  I know of a young lady who is a student in the Pune University who eloped with her gym trainer and informed her family after the event that she will continue to live with them at their expense till her now husband can afford to take her to a home and finance her education.  What chutzpah!  But this development was asking to take place too!  With subliminal messages constantly being sent to women to be thin and different from what they are, gyms are flourishing and hormones and testosterone  are doing what they are supposed to be doing.

Now to add some mirchmasala (Condiments And Spices, for the clueless) to the whole issue of matrimony here is a news item that is, to say the least amusing!

Male Bonding.

This is a subject that I have been wanting to write on for some time now and what has motivated me to do so now is the publishing of this photograph by a friend of mine on FaceBook.

And this photograph was accompanied by a statement “Holding each others hands and walking with your love makes the world perfect.” with a link to LGBT News.

As these things keep happening to me, which I call synchronicities, this morning, I came across another very interesting article in a blog post called Male Affection A Photo History Of Male Affection.

And just a week ago I had written a post on my idea of Olympics with a link to my post on Appearances, which included this photograph.

In India, it is quite normal for male friends to hold hands and walk around, just as female friends do too. I have however been noticing that both overseas visitors and local Indians exposed to, for lack of a better word, modern information, think that males holding hands and walking is indicative of homosexual tendencies, whereas it is mostly an Indian propensity to express affection to each other by walking hand in hand.

This whole situation has gone hay wire and now males, even in India, hesitate to hug each other or simply touch each other in the normal course of conversation and bonding lest they be mistaken for homosexuals. The old photographs and the write up about the bonding in the article on the photo history clearly show a significant change in attitudes towards a perfectly normal behaviour.

What is happening to us?